Archive | December 2013


Now, I don’t know about you, but I do not like to use labels to categorize people because that keeps them stuck and limits their ability to transcend situations and find another way forward.  It misses the mark completely. You are always more than what appears to be happening for you and you have the inner power to heal your life.

Depression is an interesting state of mind! Been there and done that a few times in my life with things that occurred that were very difficult to deal with so I do understand that some people will require medication temporarily, at some point, to help them calm down and then be able to move forward and there is nothing wrong in that. However, when people are told that they will have to be on medication for the rest of their lives, it is like being given a death sentence with no reprieve!

Sometimes, depression can be a resting place for us when we have had enough of the world, of being misunderstood, of fighting what we might see as an uphill battle, of struggling with situations we feel we are ill-equipped to deal with.

At other times, something unexpected may happen out of the blue and shock us to such an extent that we retreat into depression in order to try and cope somehow. Maybe our world as we knew it has been turned upside down and now we don’t know what to believe any more; our foundations have been shaken and we cannot find solid ground to stand on, or, maybe someone we thought cared about us has betrayed out trust and broken our hearts. Maybe we are a very sensitive and idealistic soul who wants to change humanity but we constantly meet with challenges and opposition to the point where we unconsciously take on the sadness and futility in the world and become depressed.

No matter what the situation is, if we do not understand that underlying issue of depression, we can medicate ourselves silly but that will not help us in the long run because the problem will still be there for us to face. We also have the solution even though we may not be aware of it!

If we can understand that maybe we need some rest, maybe we are exhausted, maybe we need to learn to say “no” to others instead of allowing them to drain our energy, we would begin to accept where we are and allow healing to take place.

Maybe we just need some time to ourselves, to make sense of what has occurred. Maybe we just need to slow down and accept what we are feeling first and let that be okay, so that by sitting “with” whatever we are feeling as if it is a guest instead of “sitting in it and becoming it”, we honour it and allow its wisdom to guide us.

Depression can be a way for you to get to know yourself better and to recognise what you need to do or say in order to be happy. Maybe you just need to value your own self instead of running around and doing for everyone else. Maybe you just need some peace. Maybe you just need to realize that you are important and that you have a purpose in life.

Just know that there is always a way out if you will give yourself time, allow yourself to become curious and discover what is really going on deep within you that the depression may be masking. If you are willing to face the truth then you can move forward into more joy and fulfilment.

Until next time,

Maria Parkinson





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Nobody Loves Me!

Have you ever heard of anyone saying “I feel so loved” or, “so many people love and care about me”!

I certainly have not come across that but what I have come across is, “Nobody loves or cares about me”, “my parents didn’t love me”, “my husband doesn’t understand or love me”!

These erroneous beliefs do not come from our Higher Self, but rather from our personality because we do not see the bigger picture. We are looking through the eyes of a wounded person who has latched onto a negative way of thinking and like a Pit Bull, does not want to let go!

The truth is that we have simply interpreted situations in such a way as to ensure we do not “feel loved”.

From a spiritual level, we are always loved without judgment. We are always connected to God, the Universe and Spirit however, we may have chosen to let go of our connection and separate ourselves from this love by buying into negative beliefs about love and choosing to hold these as our truth!

How many people die feeling unloved and alone?  How many empty lives full of addictions and mental illness are due to “not feeling loved?”.

The thing is, love is all around us. If only we would look for it, we would find it. For, what you focus on, you increase in your life. Imagine then that we could live a life of abundant love instead of dying feeling like a pauper BUT, we have to choose this!

What happens is that we have made up our own rules as to how we may feel loved. If the people we share our lives with do not show their love according to our rules, we then choose not to receive the love that is actually being offered; we literally cannot see the love because we are so blinkered, expecting love to come to us according to our demands that we miss the love that is waiting for our acknowledgment and choose instead to complain that we are not loved!

What a shame!  Instead of questioning our beliefs, we choose to beg for love everywhere and yet receive none when it is always on our doorstep awaiting our recognition.

How many people die of a broken heart not knowing how loved they were?

Right now, people all around you love you.  Will you choose to accept their gift or will you deny it and prefer instead to bemoan the life that nobody loves you?

Wake up people – let us begin looking for instances of love everywhere.  If our spouse cannot show us love the way we demand it to be, it doesn’t mean they don’t love us; it simply means we are unwilling to receive love in the way they are attempting to give it to us!!!!!

Let’s drop our ridiculous rules in order that love can finally find us.

Let’s make it easy for ourselves to recognise all the ways we are loved.  A smile from a stranger, a lick from your dog, your spouse doing the washing up, someone giving you a compliment – all of these are ways people love us BUT we take them for granted so much that we do not recognise them as acts of love!

Why not start today to create a Love Journal. Notice and document every instance of love in your day, everyday and see how loved you feel after a week!  Stop moaning about the lack of love and start receiving the abundance that is yours. And, while you are at it, see how much love you can contribute to other people each day!

Let’s create a World Of Love together by finding small ways to cheer others, to inspire  and uplift them so that they also know that “there is only Love” and that everything else is a lie!

Until next time.

Lots of love to you



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