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Depression

Now, I don’t know about you, but I do not like to use labels to categorize people because that keeps them stuck and limits their ability to transcend situations and find another way forward.  It misses the mark completely. You are always more than what appears to be happening for you and you have the inner power to heal your life.

Depression is an interesting state of mind! Been there and done that a few times in my life with things that occurred that were very difficult to deal with so I do understand that some people will require medication temporarily, at some point, to help them calm down and then be able to move forward and there is nothing wrong in that. However, when people are told that they will have to be on medication for the rest of their lives, it is like being given a death sentence with no reprieve!

Sometimes, depression can be a resting place for us when we have had enough of the world, of being misunderstood, of fighting what we might see as an uphill battle, of struggling with situations we feel we are ill-equipped to deal with.

At other times, something unexpected may happen out of the blue and shock us to such an extent that we retreat into depression in order to try and cope somehow. Maybe our world as we knew it has been turned upside down and now we don’t know what to believe any more; our foundations have been shaken and we cannot find solid ground to stand on, or, maybe someone we thought cared about us has betrayed out trust and broken our hearts. Maybe we are a very sensitive and idealistic soul who wants to change humanity but we constantly meet with challenges and opposition to the point where we unconsciously take on the sadness and futility in the world and become depressed.

No matter what the situation is, if we do not understand that underlying issue of depression, we can medicate ourselves silly but that will not help us in the long run because the problem will still be there for us to face. We also have the solution even though we may not be aware of it!

If we can understand that maybe we need some rest, maybe we are exhausted, maybe we need to learn to say “no” to others instead of allowing them to drain our energy, we would begin to accept where we are and allow healing to take place.

Maybe we just need some time to ourselves, to make sense of what has occurred. Maybe we just need to slow down and accept what we are feeling first and let that be okay, so that by sitting “with” whatever we are feeling as if it is a guest instead of “sitting in it and becoming it”, we honour it and allow its wisdom to guide us.

Depression can be a way for you to get to know yourself better and to recognise what you need to do or say in order to be happy. Maybe you just need to value your own self instead of running around and doing for everyone else. Maybe you just need some peace. Maybe you just need to realize that you are important and that you have a purpose in life.

Just know that there is always a way out if you will give yourself time, allow yourself to become curious and discover what is really going on deep within you that the depression may be masking. If you are willing to face the truth then you can move forward into more joy and fulfilment.

Until next time,

Maria Parkinson

 

 

www.mariaparkinson.com

 

 

 

 

If you wish to purchase Maria’s inspirational self-help book “Love, Honour,Oneness” – Everything In Life Has A Positive Side, you can do so from http://www.bookdepository.com or from http://www.zeuspublications.com.au

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Nobody Loves Me!

Have you ever heard of anyone saying “I feel so loved” or, “so many people love and care about me”!

I certainly have not come across that but what I have come across is, “Nobody loves or cares about me”, “my parents didn’t love me”, “my husband doesn’t understand or love me”!

These erroneous beliefs do not come from our Higher Self, but rather from our personality because we do not see the bigger picture. We are looking through the eyes of a wounded person who has latched onto a negative way of thinking and like a Pit Bull, does not want to let go!

The truth is that we have simply interpreted situations in such a way as to ensure we do not “feel loved”.

From a spiritual level, we are always loved without judgment. We are always connected to God, the Universe and Spirit however, we may have chosen to let go of our connection and separate ourselves from this love by buying into negative beliefs about love and choosing to hold these as our truth!

How many people die feeling unloved and alone?  How many empty lives full of addictions and mental illness are due to “not feeling loved?”.

The thing is, love is all around us. If only we would look for it, we would find it. For, what you focus on, you increase in your life. Imagine then that we could live a life of abundant love instead of dying feeling like a pauper BUT, we have to choose this!

What happens is that we have made up our own rules as to how we may feel loved. If the people we share our lives with do not show their love according to our rules, we then choose not to receive the love that is actually being offered; we literally cannot see the love because we are so blinkered, expecting love to come to us according to our demands that we miss the love that is waiting for our acknowledgment and choose instead to complain that we are not loved!

What a shame!  Instead of questioning our beliefs, we choose to beg for love everywhere and yet receive none when it is always on our doorstep awaiting our recognition.

How many people die of a broken heart not knowing how loved they were?

Right now, people all around you love you.  Will you choose to accept their gift or will you deny it and prefer instead to bemoan the life that nobody loves you?

Wake up people – let us begin looking for instances of love everywhere.  If our spouse cannot show us love the way we demand it to be, it doesn’t mean they don’t love us; it simply means we are unwilling to receive love in the way they are attempting to give it to us!!!!!

Let’s drop our ridiculous rules in order that love can finally find us.

Let’s make it easy for ourselves to recognise all the ways we are loved.  A smile from a stranger, a lick from your dog, your spouse doing the washing up, someone giving you a compliment – all of these are ways people love us BUT we take them for granted so much that we do not recognise them as acts of love!

Why not start today to create a Love Journal. Notice and document every instance of love in your day, everyday and see how loved you feel after a week!  Stop moaning about the lack of love and start receiving the abundance that is yours. And, while you are at it, see how much love you can contribute to other people each day!

Let’s create a World Of Love together by finding small ways to cheer others, to inspire  and uplift them so that they also know that “there is only Love” and that everything else is a lie!

Until next time.

Lots of love to you

 

Maria

© Copyright December 2013

 

 

WHY ME 

 

Well, today I just had to write about one of the most challenging years I have experienced so far, as I am sure many of you will undoubtedly be going through some testing times too.

There are times in life when you begin to question what is really going on, what you are meant to be doing and whether you are on the right path.

I can only tell you that whatever is happening in your life right now is part of your path, so the positive and constructive thing to do is to surrender your plans and flow with the situation that appears before you.

Having published an inspirational self-help book, “Love, Honour, Oneness – Everything In Life Has A Positive Side”, in November 2012, I was supposed to be promoting it this year.

What happens?  The universe has other plans!

A family member becomes ill and now we are still dealing with long-term symptoms. So, I am constantly running from appointment to appointment, buoying up their faith and trust in between and dealing with a puppy who is on the run all day long! This is not what I had planned for this year but, I am living in the now, facing whatever is given to me and finding the best response I can with the exhaustion I am also feeling.  I can now relate even more with doctors who are on call 24 hours a day!

Life, it seems, wants me home for the time being and so, here I am seven months into the year with no idea when I will be out in the world again.

It is when life hits us with such situations that we are apt to throw our hands up in the air and ask a most dangerous question: “why me?.  Why is this a dangerous question?  Because, by focussing on it, we may begin to blame other people or God and the universe or even ourselves for whatever we are being presented with and this can keep us stuck in a victim mentality. It can create conflict and negativity and make matters worse.

So, instead of asking questions that keep us stuck, the best question we can ask is, “what is the higher purpose of this situation and what can I learn from it?”.

When hard times strike, we need to remember;:all we are asked to do is embrace the situation we are sent and deal with it in as loving a manner as we can, knowing that we are always in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing with the right people.

Nothing else matters for the time being.

Can we rise to the challenge in front of us without becoming self-centred, bitter or resentful? That is entirely in our hands. If we just remember that all things pass and that all things are temporary we will be more able to ride the waves in our lives and make it safely to shore, once again.

I hope this experience will help you to navigate your life in a smoother manner, understanding that everything happens for the highest good of all, in divine timing.

Until next time, you are not your experiences, you are far more than that.

In love,

Maria Parkinson

www.MariaParkinson.com

 

 

 

 

Living Life In The New Age – Now!

Our way of life is changing and solutions that once used to work are now becoming obsolete.

We are being called to a new way of living and being in the world and it begins on our doorstep. We are being asked to embrace love, honour and oneness, not only in our closest relationships but also in our daily interactions with other people. We are being asked to apply these values everywhere we go and to everything we encounter, even when situations or interactions appear in a negative light because conflict no longer works to solve anything. The new energy is about bringing peace, love and harmony with us everywhere we go.

How can we do that?

By acknowledging and welcoming these values within ourselves and striving to live by them in our own lives, we can then extend them out to other people and this can have a tremendous effect around the globe. If we will just begin bringing love, creating peace where there is conflict and healing everything in our own lives that is unbalanced we would then carry these vibrations with us and allow others to experience them and adopt them also.

World peace is up to us as individuals in the first place – if we cannot embody and live in peace, where will peace find its home? If we cannot love then love will walk beside us unrecognised and there can be no unity if all we perceive is separation.

Change begins with us – our thoughts are extremely powerful so let us use them positively and then show others how to do the same!

So, begin today – where can you share more love, peace and unity? Where can you make a difference today? Who can you uplift by saying a kind word, giving someone a hug, showing someone their power, their strength, their spirit?

Remember, it only takes a small gesture to bring about a big result.

Until next time,

Be loving, peaceful and walk in unity and honour with all people – We are one.

If you would like some strategies to help you create more love, honour and oneness in your life and your relationships and to discover and live your life purpose then you will find these in my newest spiritual self-help book “Love, Honour, Oneness” which you can preview and purchase at http://www.zeus-publications.com/love_honour_oneness.htm.